The Hidden Gift Inside Every ‘First’: A Lesson I Didn’t Expect”

I’m coming to you with a full heart. Recently, I’ve been moving through a season of incredible “firsts.” But before anything else, a confession…

I’ve been complaining to my husband about all the first-time situations (or “firsts”) happening in my life. My complaining has been constant. You might even call it whining. It sounds something like this…

“I’m ready to advance to ‘seconds!’” I whine. “I’m tired of all these ‘firsts.’ Everything feels so hard and unfamiliar!”

In his wisdom, he just smiles at me and tells me to “keep going.” Then he reminds me that these “firsts” are actually a gift, one I wouldn’t have if I weren’t on this particular breakthrough journey. And then he brings out the big guns: “You are killing the joy. Stop stressing and just enjoy it.” Ouch.

He’s right. His kind correction reminds me to change my attitude.

As I move through this season, I’m slowly acknowledging that those frustrating “firsts” are gifts in disguise. When I’m honest with myself, I can admit that my biggest issue with “firsts” is my need for control. Imagine that! 🫣

My job isn’t to force an outcome. I can’t control all the things I want to go well. But I can trust the process, release the outcome into God’s hands, be present in this moment, and enjoy the ride. So here I am practicing exactly that—enjoying the ride with a heart full of gratitude for the people in my life and for the opportunity to experience some pretty incredible “firsts.”

“Firsts” are thrilling, exhilarating, and exhausting because you never know how they will turn out, and you don’t know what you don’t know. Here’s what I’ve learned: when I let go after doing my best, my focus shifts to what really matters, the people around me and the blessings they bring into my life.

I’ve been gifted with overwhelming love and support from long-lost friends, newly found sisters-in-arms, and changemakers who cheer loudly when someone in their sphere steps out boldly to make a positive impact. The moments of mutual support and sling-shot networking have reminded me how powerful a group of committed, supportive people can be when they come together.

I even received a voice note from a friend who cheered her heart out for me during a particularly meaningful “first.” You can bet I saved the recording. I asked her if I could share it because we all deserve to receive a message like this, and I can’t do a better job than she did. So the next time you face a “first” and need a hoop-and-hollar of support, play it and know I’m cheering for you. (You may want to turn the volume down first. 🎧) After all, “firsts” should be celebrated.

So, my friend, what “firsts” have you been experiencing lately? Have you been complaining about them, like I was? And how might those “firsts” actually be contributing to your next breakthrough moment? I’d truly love to hear and support you.

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